A lot of us are reeling from the US election results this week. Will it be harder to be nice in a seemingly hardened world? Or is now the time when us nice folks need to roll-up our sleeves and get to work?
-If reading builds empathy, we may need these books now more than ever.
-Who’s bubble is it anyway?
–Shining silver lining.
-Combat idle hands.
-Spread the hope.
It’s been a while. We know. Life happens and Too Nice had to take a break while life sorted itself out. We’re owning it because that’s what we’re all about. Here are some things we’ve been thinking about this week.
Hillary’s not smiling.
Neither are we. Unless we want to.
Jimmy touched this.
Tweets about Tim.
I have a kind of unique job. People have to approach me to request my services, but I get to be kind of selective about who I work with. It leads to a lot of people pitching me things at parties and a lot of my tactfully having to side-step them. I totally get that approaching someone in my position is awkward and in turn, I always approach each request as thoughtfully as I can. One popped into my inbox the other day that stood out, though. It was from a neighbor who I only know a little bit. She opened the email recalling the last time we all found ourselves outside at the same time during the summer. While I appreciated her lead and totally understand how “Hey we should do that again” is a good open for the exchange, I remember that day completely differently. I recall being made to feel like a third wheel, not at all like a welcomed new addition to the block. I recall her bristling when my son asked her for a drink of water and I remember how she turned to the other moms standing in the little circle and changed the subject to something they all had in common. Yeah, I’d totally love to do that again.
Initially, we were going to share some links about being polite and how that equates (or does it?) to being nice, but then we stumbled upon a handful of links about children, how we communicate with them, how we fear hurting their feelings, how we teach them to be kind, and it all may be harmful in the long term. We’re saving the discussion on politeness for another time, and until then, here are the stories we’ve been reading this week:
Mercury is in retrograde until the end of the month. Apparently, this is the reason why we’re all out of sorts these days. At least we hope that we can blame Mercury for people’s questionable behavior.
-Why everyone is acting strange.
-Maybe they’re just mean.
-Or just detail-oriented.
-Most of us just like it when things go our way.
It’s January, Mercury is in retrograde and it’s getting cold outside so naturally, people seem extra grumpy these days. So it was a pleasant surprise the other day when someone asked me if I was OK on the morning rush-hour commute. I was pressed against the door and didn’t move my head far enough in before the doors started to close and hit my head. It was a little bit embarrassing and, more importantly, it hurt. Everyone sort of looked at me funny as I made an “ouch” sound but the woman beside me actually asked if I was OK. It’s a bit sad that I think this is so nice and so great because we should all be concerned about fellow humans but sadly, we are not, especially on the morning tube commute in London.
It’s resolution time and we at Too Nice Project have a doozy for you: this year, resolve to be selfish! You heard us right. Be selfish. If this past year of talking about all thing #toonice has taught us anything it’s that the happier you are, the nicer you’re going to be to others. So, go ahead, make yourself happy!
-Ditch the idea of “New You” and focus on “Present You.”
-Stop giving a F*%K!
-Say “yes” to saying “no,” Shonda Rhimes-style.
-Most importantly, make resolutions that you want to keep.