Yesterday, on the train ride home, the conductor walked into my car and told a man leaning against the door to get off the train. “Before they arrest you,” he concluded. Of course, we all pretended not to watch what was happening, hiding behind e-readers and mobile phones. “You didn’t pay your fare,” the conductor stated. The man said he would not be getting off the train. So the conductor went back to his post and we just sat there in a strange stand-off. He wasn’t going to move until the man got off, the man wasn’t going anywhere. After a few minutes, passengers started yelling at the man in question, telling him to get off, that he was holding the rest of us up. In the end, the man won. He stayed put and no doubt the backlog of trains forced the conductors hand. It was an awkward moment to say the least, initially I hoped the guy would just leave the train, but now, I kind of admired his tenacity.
The holidays can be a stressful time of the year. Chances are, even if you love your family more than anything, after a few days of festive fun, someone is bound to get on your nerves. Emotions also often run high around Christmas so for many people, it’s not the merriest time of the year.
If you have no idea what we are talking about, count yourself lucky. But for those of you who do, here are some links from around the Web to help you survive the holidays.
Season’s Greetings and hope to see you all in 2016. Thanks so much for reading!
A friend of mine joined a pyramid scheme. Ok, maybe I’m being harsh. But she’s started selling branded books and keeps emailing me about book parties that I should attend. I totally get that we’re all scrambling and trying to make ends meet and looking for ways to make extra cash, but why doesn’t she – of all people – get that I don’t have any extra cash to spare? What’s worse if that I feel like our friendship has started to suffer. I emailed explaining that I wouldn’t be able to attend the latest party and she didn’t get back to me for over a week – and I could tell by her dismissive tone that she was pissed. Am I a bad friend for not supporting her more or is she overstepping by pushing her venture on me?
As 2015 comes to a close, we’ve been thinking about the last few months and all the terrible things that have happened around the world this year. Sometimes it all feels so hopeless. The least we can all do is be a little nicer, a tad kinder and a lot more empathetic. (And in case you missed it, here’s a photo of Canada’s new Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau greeting Syrian refugees as they arrived in Toronto earlier today.)
–Simple acts of kindness we can all do
-And 29 more
-Teaching kids about kindness by addressing the Syrian refugee crisis
-Because sometimes , you just need a feel-good photo
I wasn’t nice, or I should say, I was assertive this week and now, after a series of events, I feel awful and wish I had kept my mouth shut.
I had a concern about one of my child’s teachers at daycare. Mostly it had to do with this teacher being new and someone I had never met. And yet, she was commenting on my son’s development after only being in his classroom for a few days. One of the other teachers mentioned that this new teacher was concerned about my son’s social skills and instructed her to leave him alone more (she is the one who comforts and holds him the most as his key worker and he is very attached to her).
I went to management and asked why someone who I had never met was saying these things to another teacher, instead of sharing her concerns directly with me, the parent, first. But instead of addressing this with the new teacher, management instructed my son’s key worker to be more sensitive in the way she speaks to me (a.k.a. not to tell me things like this in the future).
It was completely taken out of context and now, I feel like the teacher I love, and my son loves, is upset with us. And not only that, I feel even more angry toward management, toward the new teacher, and part of me feels like I shouldn’t have said anything to begin with.
Too Nice Mom
It’s that time of year again, the one where the internet is inundated with gift guides. We at Too Nice have been racking our brains trying to decide what, exactly, makes a “nice” gift. We’re still not sure, but we think it might be a mix of shopping less and genuinely giving more. What do you think?
- Here’s a reason to say “No!” to the mall.
- If you just can’t get away from buying a gift, consider giving something that does some good.
- Sometimes the people on our list need a nudge, so why not give a gift that helps to end hunger and poverty in their name?
- Of course, if you’re stumped for the perfect idea, remember: the best present is presence.
We’ve agreed to a cash limit on gifts in my family. My husband always goes over. This drives me crazy because everyone on his side of the family sticks to the limit to the penny. Every year we end up spending more than we budgeted for and every year we fight about it. Should I be more considerate and just accept that my husband wants to give the perfect gift, no matter the price or do I keep fighting for the health of our bank account?